Kaden, 4, South Korea
"We were married in August 1998 and always wanted kids. But after years of trying and several failed attempts at fertility treatments, we were heartbroken at the prospect of never being parents. Because of life-long issues with my brother, a domestic adoptee, I was terrified at the thought of adopting. I had no confidence in God or myself to be able to handle the unique challenges that adopted children face.
God, however, had other plans! Once we decided to officially be "done" with the infertility treatments, adopted started popping up everywhere. A family in our church adopted an adorable little girl from South Korea. When we turned on the radio, we heard ads and programs promoting adoption. We turned on the T.V., and yep, a special on adoption! No matter where we went, who we talked to, or what we did, we could not run away from the theme of adoption. It was if God was literally hitting us over the head with a frying pan.
We were still scared. Not only were we worried about our ability to parent an adopted child, but we were scared of the adoption process, the finances involved, and well, EVERYTHING! But God gently reminded us along the way that we were not in control, HE was in control. All children, both biological and adopted, are gifts from God. They are not ours as we like to think, but His, on loan to us for a little while on earth. He was not going to bless us with children and then abandon us. He would be there along the journey.
The adoption process for our son Kaden was amazing. It went smoothly and he joined our family at only 3 1/2 months of age. He was the dream first-child with plenty of smiles, lots of hugs and kisses, and so easy-going. Not long after he turned 2, we decided he needed a sibling. Just 3 days before his 3rd birthday, Cindy joined our family at 10 1/2 months of age. Her adoption process was anything but smooth. She was/is not a cooperative, easy-going child! But God was still there and continues to be there and go before us, lighting our path as we face new challenges. We thank God so much for his blessing of adoption!"